Wednesday, December 24, 2014

Thankfulness is a choice - me thinks


 Warning, potentially a sickly sweet, overtly sugary post coming up...if you are looking for realism please stop reading. If you like a bit of fairy dust on your morning porridge, read on.

The last couple of weeks I have had an overwhelming sense of thankfulness. I have so much to be thankful about and so much to look forward to in the next year. Amazing husband, lovely son, wonderful family, great friends, job I love and so on.

Yet, it is far too easy to focus on what we haven't got. Compare our short comings to the person next to us. Very quickly we become ungrateful for what we have as someone else will always have much better job/bigger house/more polite kids/nicer holidays/better attitude than we do. Grass is always greener on the other side but the best way to deal with that is to make sure we keep our own patch of lawn well watered - the other side doesn't belong to us anyway so why give two hoots about it?

I have no great pearls of wisdom to offer but I do think thankfulness is actually a choice we make. It is not how we feel but an attitude we consciously choose to have. Pollyanna was one of my favourite books growing up. In the book, she plays a glad game, finding something to be happy about in every situation. People who view the world through rose tinted glasses get often accused of being unrealistic, living with their head in the clouds, being naive. Oh well, I rather be that than a miserable grump any day :)

Focusing on the silver lining, does not change the situation you are in but it does change how you view it. Back to the old half empty/half full debate then! Yes, and the good news is - you are the one who decides how much water is in your cup.

Can't think of any more cheesy metaphors to use so here's what to do: make sure you look after your grass, find the silver lining and keep your cup half full this Christmas!What's the worst that could happen...

Merry Christmas Everyone!!!