Monday, May 21, 2012

Monday morning musings on waiting

Waiting is the hardest thing at times. You know what you want to do and you want to do it now but for one reason or another things are not working out the way you want. We go through seasons in our lives but at times winter, the time of waiting for new things, seems endless. Like in Narnia - always winter but never Christmas. 

In the time of waiting self control and patience are tested. Your heart desires to do something, be somewhere, achieve something but the reality is far removed from where you want to be. The intangibility of what you are hoping for or dreaming of challenges our patience and faith. If we knew the exact timing of things in our lives we could reason with ourselves telling only three more months and then it is time to...move house, change jobs, start a new project...

Yet, it is not that simple. Our time of waiting shapes us. Whatever we are going through is part of the journey of our life. We don't always know why but sometimes I wonder if knowing why would actually help me to endure or not. We often think that knowing why would make things easier. The often repeated phrase of 'if I only knew why' can often keep us focused on the past rather than looking forwards.

I haven't really got any answers, just few thoughts and ponderings. I think we need to enjoy the season we are in the best we can whilst not losing focus on our dreams. Like it says in Ecclesiastes:

There is a time for everything
and a season for every activity under the heavens: 
a time to plant and a time to uproot,     
a time to kill and a time to heal,    
a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
 a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,     
a time to search and a time to give up,    
a time to keep and a time to throw away,     
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak, 
a time to love and a time to hate,    
a time to be born and a time to die,
a time for war and a time for peace. 

And here is what sparked my thoughts - on the difficulty of waiting...The classic psychology study conducted in the 60s (or as my lecturers often used to call the 'good old days before too many ethics forms') called the marshmallow test. Child is left in a room with a marshmallow in front of  them with the promise of receiving two marshmallows on the return of the researcher if they do not touch the first one. Here's some clips of one reconstruction of that put a smile on my face.

They say that good things come to those who wait. Two marshmallows instead of just one :) Treasure the time of waiting and think of the things to come. The harder and longer the time of waiting, the sweeter the reward will be once the seasons change.

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